Let yourself be seen in your sacred wholeness

I think the majority of us hold ourselves back in relationships. Whether that be platonic, romantic or familial.

We hide aspects of ourselves in order to keep the peace or maybe because we fear being seen or perhaps we think that someone will finally see the darkness that we bury, the shadow that we run from.

We all have a part of ourselves that we ‘protect’ and keep hidden, maybe out of shame, a fear of rejection or just for being ‘too much’.

We hold back. No one ever sees us in our wholeness, maybe we’ve never even seen ourselves in our wholeness… Because it’s scary right? The monster in us all that makes us feel broken, unlovable, unworthy… we all have an aspect of it. We all try to hide it.

Because of what? An instinct to be accepted? A need to be a part of something? That drive to not get shunned by our loved ones because, historically that meant we had a low chance of survival… it’s instinct. To suppress ourselves, to be small, digestible for others. To please and apologise when you step out of line from the accepted norms.

A question I’ve been pondering is, why still? Why do we still act on this old instinct to fit in?

Surely we’re not going to have the same end as our ancestors if we express our fullness now? Isn’t it safe?

We’re seeing a widespread increase in individuality, authenticity and radical self acceptance but many of us still feel we need to hold back.

Something I’ve figured recently is that your fullness is a filter.

If you were your most authentic self, what would happen to those around you who didn’t like it? Would they stay? Probably not… but why would we want them to stay anyway?

If we acted from our wholeness, wouldn’t we attract more people who would appreciate us for all that we are? And encourage them to shine too?

Humans are Art. We are messy and chaotic and not everyone is going to like us, but there will absolutely, always be some that see beauty in the brushstrokes, some that relate to the story of the artist’s mind, plastered upon the canvas that is you.

So do not fear your fullness, don’t suppress your weird and most certainly don’t keep yourself small to be ‘likeable’ because, really… who wants to be liked for being something we aren’t?

So, like a Peacock. Let yourself be seen in your sacred wholeness. And witness those who leave, and truly love those who stay.

~ Aurora

The Unwoven Self